Podcasts Related to Understanding Deceptive Sexuality
and The CASRD and Trauma Model
The following podcasts feature professional interviews related to understanding the evolution and development of the trauma model and the diagnostic and clinical concept of compulsive-abusive sexual-relational disorders (CASRD), as developed by Dr. Omar Minwalla.
The first four podcasts are interviews conducted by Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT, founder of The Center for Relational Healing, and Duane Osterland, LMFT, CSAT-S, founder of Novus Family Counseling and Recovery Center, and are sequential in educational content. It is recommended they be listened to in order, as a four part series.
The Gigantic Elephant in the Room:
Naming, or not Naming, Chronic Patterns of Abuse,Violation and Harm in Intimate Relationships due to Deceptive Sexuality
Dr. Minwalla describes the term compulsive-abusive sexual-relational disorders (CASRD) and his treatment model. He discusses how these problems involve two parts, the sexual behavior that is problematic but also the concept of an integrity disorder and how that can result in ongoing patterns of emotional, psychological and relational abuse. He discusses some of these abusive behavioral patterns that are a legitimate and diagnosable abuse disorder. He articulates the importance and clinical value of naming and diagnosing this part of the problem, rather than only focusing on one part of the problem, the sexual behavior, which is the case with current clinical models for compulsive sexual behavior and sex addiction.
Shedding Light on Integrity-Abuse Disorder (IAD):
Compulsive Sexual Behavior and Sex Addiction is not just a Sexual Problem but an Intimate Partner and Domestic Abuse Problem
Dr. Minwalla sheds light on a type of intimate partner and domestic abuse which has largely remained hidden in the dark. An integrity-abuse disorder (IAD) involves ongoing patterns of emotional, psychological and relational harm, such as gaslighting, lying, lying by omission, blaming, cover-ups, secret agendas, denial patterns and defenses. Dr. Minwalla describes the nature and definition of an integrity-abuse disorder (IAD) and discusses treatment and professional issues. He describes the importance of recognizing, diagnosing and helping patients and clinicians name and treat the integrity-abuse that occurs when people have a secret sexual life while in an intimate partnership or within the context of a family system. He argues that without shining light on this type of abuse, treatment cannot be provided for dealing with these issues, including the victims of these disorders, leaving a type of suffering without a name.
The Secret Sexual Basement:
An Educational Metaphor to facilitate a foundational understanding of Deceptive Sexuality and the clinical term, Deceptive, Compartmentalized Sexual-Relational Reality (DCSR)
Dr. Minwalla explains how integrity-abuse disorders not only involve ongoing patterns of emotional, psychological and relational harm, such as gaslighting, lying, lying by omission, blaming, cover ups, denial, etc., but also involves creating, maintaining, and engaging in a deceptive, compartmentalized sexual-relational reality (DCSR). He utilizes the metaphor of a family living in a home containing a secret sexual basement that one of the family members has deceptively built. He explains each letter of this acronym, DCSR. In order to deepen the understanding of integrity-abuse disorders (IAD), he touches on gaslighting and how having a secret sexual basement may damage or erode a victim’s second brain, or subtle survival instinct system, and/or the intimate relationship, partner attachment, and trust.
What Up Dude?
Is it Sex Addiction or actually Unhealthy Masculinity and Sexual Entitlement? Gender Pathology as a Significant Missing Piece in Understanding Compulsive Sexual Behavior and Sex Addiction Disorders
Dr. Minwalla describes how our gender development is often shaped by a type of complex gender trauma shaping process, which results in what is referred to as gender pathology. He articulates how this is actually a significant contributing factor to sexual acting out problems and is currently a missing piece in understanding compulsive sexual behavior and sex addiction. Dr. Minwalla begins to discuss underlying contributing factors to CASRD and deceptive sexuality among men, including gender trauma shaping and how that contributes to integrity-abuse disorder (IAD) and deceptive sexuality. Gender trauma shaping gender pathology plays a significant role in the normalization of sexual entitlement and in deceptive sexuality among men. Finally, Dr. Minwalla describes the emerging clinical term, compulsive-entitled sexuality (CES), instead of traditional terms such as sex addiction or compulsive sexual behavior.
Cheating is Domestic Abuse?
How we have all been indoctrinated into the Normalization of Integrity Abuse Disorders in Intimate Relationships and Family Systems
Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, discusses the CASRD and Trauma Model with Dr. Minwalla. They discuss the term, “abuse”, and it’s clinical application to describe ongoing patterns of lying or gaslighting, causing erosion of integrity in a relationship or family system, and how having a secret sexual life is abusive. They discuss the importance of naming and utilizing an abuse-victim model in clinical treatment related to deceptive sexuality and the problems that may occur when this is avoided or not clearly understood in terms of treatment and healing.
Trying to Turn the Titanic Around:
“Get on the bus, or Get off the bus”
The Professional Evolution from the Co-Sex Addiction Model towards a Betrayal Trauma Model among Sex Addiction Professionals: Interview with Dr. Stephanie Carnes
In this interview by Marnie and Duane from the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Dr. Stephanie Carnes, President of IITAP and a long-time leader in the sex addiction field, discusses the traditional clinical model and treatment approaches and the changes within the last twenty years. Dr. Carnes shares the sex addiction field’s trajectory from a traditional co-sex addiction model towards a developing recognition of trauma experienced by the intimate partner or spouse. This interview offers a historical perspective of a controversial issue, and Dr. Carne’s shares her experience on the front line of a paradigm shift.
A Call to Action: Co-Sex Addict or Abuse and Trauma Survivor?
Time for Professionals to Recognize their Diagnostic Mislabeling of the Intimate Partner or Spouse
Dr. Minwalla speaks with Guy McPherson from The Trauma Therapist Podcast about his early training as a clinical sexologist, and in his training in compulsive sexual behavior, the sex addiction model, and the co-sex addiction model. Dr. Minwalla discussed the early agenda of recognizing a form of diagnostic mislabeling and the dismantling and disruption of the co-sex addiction and codependency models to treat the intimate partner of sex addicts. He shares his early recognition of trauma symptoms among partners of sex addicts and the formative years of challenging the sex addiction and professional fields to look at partners as people who have been victimized by deception, lies, manipulation, and are traumatized by sexual acting out patterns in their lives and family systems.